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Strategies For Mastering Yourself
In The Classroom Of Life
Stand in your own personal authority by speaking your truth, and then let go of it.
Q-TIP: Quit taking it personally. WAIT (Why am I talking?)
Maintain a position of faith, and trust in the process, and know the difference between what you can and can’t control.
Become the change you want to see in the world.
Establish 3 basic agreements in the culture of your home, school, and community – keep this posted so that you have a visual reminder to point to.
Avoid power struggles by picking your battles without grandstanding.
Remember to breathe, and be mindful of your thoughts, judgments or any other distractions, and picture peaceful, calming thoughts. Always come back to your breath.
Be gentle and kind to others in communication.
We all have a right to be who we are, and deserve to be treated with dignity, and respect.
Focus on the positive, and look for the silver lining.
Instead of complaining about the garden variety of damaging problems that exist, find the solutions, and trust that they are on their way in the form of win-win scenarios for the goose and the gander.
Learn how to practice meditation/mindfulness by sitting with what is, self-reflect about how you feel about that, and discover how to make friends with everything on the inside.
Keep your power by owning your feelings, and expressing them respectfully
by using I-Messages if necessary.
Practice self-care by being gentle and kind to yourself, and build empathy by trying to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. It’s the Golden Rule.
Steer clear of getting seduced by your fears, making excuses, being a victim by playing the blame game, or targeting other people, places or things by being an armchair quarterback.
Engineer your workspaces in ways that are welcoming, invite creative collaborative teamwork, includes soft, independent work/study areas, promote a sense of belonging, and make someone feel like they are walking into a hug.
If agreements are broken, or conflicts arise, take ownership for your behavior, process the tension authentically, and then make amends.
Be curious about what’s hiding underneath the behavior that is driving you mad.
Remember the Universal Pillars of Love and Truth to Light Your Way
Out of the Ashes, the Phoenix Rises!